昨晚和朋友谈天, 忽然聊到关于男女之间的事... 以下是我们的对话:
朋友: 我是不能容忍我的男友在我面前和其它人过度亲热... 就算他们是很要好的朋友,也不能在这麽多人面前当我是透明的... 那是很不尊重我.. 我不能接受...
我: 哈哈... 我以经麻木了.. 这就是他啊.. 改变不了的习惯...不然,你要我这么办....
朋友: 你应该要让他明白, 这是不好受的感觉啊... 给他知道, 这是一种尊重. 他这样做,外面的人会这样看你和他...
我: 唉...他是不会理回人家对他的看发的啦...对他来说, 最重要是我能够了解.. 那就够了...
朋友: 喂... 你的火和脾气到底去了那里... 你以前不是这样子的...
我 : 哈哈.. 我也觉得很奇怪啊... 可能, 是报应吧...
朋友: 可是, 这样讲还是说不过去啦... 难到你不会妒嫉吗??? 你不想要让他知道,你的感受吗?
我: 嫉妒...??? 好久没有了这种感觉... 以经忘了嫉妒是这样的感觉... 或则我是不敢吧...因为太了解他了, 知道他是个这样的男人.所以,以经学会不去做会让他反感的事情... 我会尽量去配合... 哈哈, 我知道我以经变了, 太多人和我说过,我不是以前的丽盈了..可能,爱一个人真的会改变吧.... 或许是我太过爱他了吧...每一个人的牺牲程度都不一样吧..我以经学会不去记交谁爱的比交多谁爱的比交少... 我知想要他过的开心而我不会是他的包袱... 我只是想做那个当他须要一个人来给他依靠和温暖的人... 哈哈.. 你应该很吓到吧.....
朋友: 你好力害, 真佩服你...!!! 你真的是一个"为仔死,为仔亡"的苯女人....
我: 习惯成自然吗...!!!
朋友: 我是怕他以经当成你所做的东西是理所当然的事了....
理所当然 - 他有吗 ? 可能吧!!! 他会珍惜我所做的事情吗? 会吧!!! 那他爱我吗? 爱!!! 可是,爱一个人真的要牺牲和改变的那么多吗? 这我也不知道........ 不如,你来帮我回答吧......
May 28, 2008
~ 15 simple ways to keep your partner happy ~
see this write up in the main page of yahoo... what they write is very true... so i decided to post it up here... happy reading ya...
"So you're in a relationship and your partner starts nagging. She tells you that you just don't understand her, and that she really wishes that you would just do more "little things."
It's not the big things that make her happy; it's paying attention to the little details and showing you care that is really meaningful. She doesn't necessarily need lavish gifts -- she needs to know you're thinking about her.
Here are some ideas to get you started doing these "little things" she really wants:
1. Rub her feet instead of asking her if she wants you to rub her feet. Make it look like you want to do it.
2. Make her dinner one night. Don't ask her if she wants you to make dinner. Make her dinner before she gets home.
3. Light a candle so that she arrives home to a nice environment instead of coming home to the glaring lights of the television and other things.
4. Send her a text in the middle of the day telling her "I miss your smile from this morning" or "Last night was amazing!" or "The conversation we had last night was great."
5. Send an eCard in the middle of the day... something cute to remind her how much you really care about her.
6. If she's going on a business trip, offer to drive her to the airport or pick her up to make her life that much easier.
7. Let her have control of the remote control. Don't monopolize it for a change. Just give it to her and let her actually sit there and enjoying watching one of her shows. Then you can share one of her interests by watching it with her.
8. Offer to iron one of her shirts or take her clothes to the dry cleaner.
9. Clean up the bathroom without being asked. Don't just sit there and ignore the mess around the toilet. If you know it drives her crazy to see water splashed all around the sink, dry that area after you use it.
10. If you work out together, enjoy it with her instead of rushing through your own workout and then not letting her workout at the same time.
11. Take a shower together, then wash her hair, scrub her back, and give her a spa treatment. Do this and enjoy it!
12. The next time she gives you a massage, give her a massage the next day. Offer it! Don't just say you'll give her a massage...do it!
13. Surprise her by making plans. Tell her, "We're going out tonight honey." You can even just go out for a drink or dinner somewhere. It's taking the initiative that's important.
14. Decide on and set aside one night a week as date night. Have a date like when you first started dating.
15. Call her in the middle of the day and just say hello. Don't wait for her to call you.
It can be simple to keep her satisfied. It's not necessarily about what you give her financially or what gifts you give her. That's a cop out. It's the little things. The guy who makes the biggest mistake is the one who ignores their significant other then all of a sudden give them an expensive gift to make up for it. That doesn't make up for it at all."
"So you're in a relationship and your partner starts nagging. She tells you that you just don't understand her, and that she really wishes that you would just do more "little things."
It's not the big things that make her happy; it's paying attention to the little details and showing you care that is really meaningful. She doesn't necessarily need lavish gifts -- she needs to know you're thinking about her.
Here are some ideas to get you started doing these "little things" she really wants:
1. Rub her feet instead of asking her if she wants you to rub her feet. Make it look like you want to do it.
2. Make her dinner one night. Don't ask her if she wants you to make dinner. Make her dinner before she gets home.
3. Light a candle so that she arrives home to a nice environment instead of coming home to the glaring lights of the television and other things.
4. Send her a text in the middle of the day telling her "I miss your smile from this morning" or "Last night was amazing!" or "The conversation we had last night was great."
5. Send an eCard in the middle of the day... something cute to remind her how much you really care about her.
6. If she's going on a business trip, offer to drive her to the airport or pick her up to make her life that much easier.
7. Let her have control of the remote control. Don't monopolize it for a change. Just give it to her and let her actually sit there and enjoying watching one of her shows. Then you can share one of her interests by watching it with her.
8. Offer to iron one of her shirts or take her clothes to the dry cleaner.
9. Clean up the bathroom without being asked. Don't just sit there and ignore the mess around the toilet. If you know it drives her crazy to see water splashed all around the sink, dry that area after you use it.
10. If you work out together, enjoy it with her instead of rushing through your own workout and then not letting her workout at the same time.
11. Take a shower together, then wash her hair, scrub her back, and give her a spa treatment. Do this and enjoy it!
12. The next time she gives you a massage, give her a massage the next day. Offer it! Don't just say you'll give her a massage...do it!
13. Surprise her by making plans. Tell her, "We're going out tonight honey." You can even just go out for a drink or dinner somewhere. It's taking the initiative that's important.
14. Decide on and set aside one night a week as date night. Have a date like when you first started dating.
15. Call her in the middle of the day and just say hello. Don't wait for her to call you.
It can be simple to keep her satisfied. It's not necessarily about what you give her financially or what gifts you give her. That's a cop out. It's the little things. The guy who makes the biggest mistake is the one who ignores their significant other then all of a sudden give them an expensive gift to make up for it. That doesn't make up for it at all."
May 23, 2008
~ My new frenz ~
is been almost 2 weeks i started my new job... still trying to adapt the culture here... but everything seem to be goin smoothly, so i guess it is a good start for me... working here is very much relaxing in terms of working time, there's no actual or should i say a proper timing to come into the office, beside Suki - our office tai ka jie, who help us to maintain the office from admin to account and she is only 19 this year, but she is very "seng mook" and "jing ling", she will be in de office at 9am. The second person to reached office at 9.30am, would be our art director low - he is a funny guy, very thin and love to drink and also like to "kap lui". Then the 3rd person to be in the office will be me, between 10am - 10.30am. So now u can imagine how relax can it be, somemore can beat the traffic, so wonderful ler... hahaha.. But in term of the working process, it is still very messy. No systems in organizing the job distribution and most of the things that client want is very rush... but i'm slowly working on the system to implement it, hopefully it works...
Anyway yesterday nite is the 1st time i go out to have dinner and drinking session with my new colleague (to celebrate my boss and my copy writer bday).. we had so much of fun in the chinese restourant, the place is having a wedding function and guess what type of music they put..."TECHNO", we were like laughing and there's a aunty/ entertainer sing on the stage (typical chinese wedding), and guess wat she's wearing, a full gold + glitter dress and later she went and change to a full red bra top dress.. we was like WTF and al the song tat she sing is all techno remix version... after the TECHNO dinner, we went to red bar in kota damansara, haih~~ another crappy place, loads of old fart and ugly PR girls entertaining the MALE customer... But wat to do, my bosses like to hang out in this kind of place so have to folllow lo, but if i have a chance to orgazine a nite out, i will definately bring them to see places where full of hot chic muhahahahaha... on another hand, i'm suck a suck drinker, 3 glass and i'm high...luckily charles came and rescue me, but he is high too (he come from No Black Tie event) ... but overall, it was a great nite out and i hope that i have break the ice between all of them...
The Techno Dinner Place
Ben (my Boss) Peace Pose
Anyway yesterday nite is the 1st time i go out to have dinner and drinking session with my new colleague (to celebrate my boss and my copy writer bday).. we had so much of fun in the chinese restourant, the place is having a wedding function and guess what type of music they put..."TECHNO", we were like laughing and there's a aunty/ entertainer sing on the stage (typical chinese wedding), and guess wat she's wearing, a full gold + glitter dress and later she went and change to a full red bra top dress.. we was like WTF and al the song tat she sing is all techno remix version... after the TECHNO dinner, we went to red bar in kota damansara, haih~~ another crappy place, loads of old fart and ugly PR girls entertaining the MALE customer... But wat to do, my bosses like to hang out in this kind of place so have to folllow lo, but if i have a chance to orgazine a nite out, i will definately bring them to see places where full of hot chic muhahahahaha... on another hand, i'm suck a suck drinker, 3 glass and i'm high...luckily charles came and rescue me, but he is high too (he come from No Black Tie event) ... but overall, it was a great nite out and i hope that i have break the ice between all of them...
The Techno Dinner Place
Ben (my Boss) Peace Pose
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